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Define Me

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How would others define me?

This thought crossed my mind one evening when a close friend of mine attempted to describe a buddy of his I hadn’t yet met….. The description that came out was truly awful, making me question what he would say about me should he be in a situation where it were necessary.  Although his depiction focused entirely on physical aspects of the person, I started to think about what I say about those closest to me. Do I tell people my best friend is the most trustworthy person I’ve ever met? That she’s beautiful and smart and is the only person in the world who can take one look at me and know I’m about to blow my lid? Or what about my husband? I don’t ever share the fact that I hope our children will have his, “melt your heart” eyes, or that after 7 years I’ve yet to meet someone who didn’t like him. Instead my most sensational compliments of, ” She’s gorgeous” and,”He’s the best!” have all been reserved for people I barely I know…. the acquaintances that haven’t yet been given the opportunity to disappoint or hurt me. I hadn’t been fair or even accurate with my own characterizations of the MOST amazing people in my life. The ones who have seen me at my worst and yet still continue to love me. I’ve made it my mission now to tell each of them just how awesome they are…not just on birthdays and other special occasions but every time I think it…which, luckily for me, is often!

 
 
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Tipsy Tuesday

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For most Monday to Friday, nine to fivers (like myself), the most dreaded day of the week is Monday. Oh the hatred we all feel for poor Monday! I’m willing to bet if you were to really think of it, Mondays are actually not that bad. Most long weekends give us the Monday off PLUS Mondays at work are often spent in the leftover haze from the weekend, resulting in proven poor productivity and longer lunch breaks than any other day of the week!  So let’s stop hating on Mondays for a bit. Tuesdays, however, TUESDAYS are the devil incarnate.

Every spilled coffee, ripped pantyhose, evil management email and all round bad day have more often than not been courtesy of Tuesday. If those little items weren’t already detrimental enough, Tuesdays carry the expectancy of performing to full potential. There’s no longer the, ” Sorry, it’s Monday!” excuse that so often gets me through day 1 of 5. My Tuesdays typically end with a furious drive home, a half ass attempt at online job hunting, and a few lemon drop martinis . End result? What my friends have affectionately coined, “Tipsy Tuesday”.   Cheers!

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Mom’s Advice

Posted on by zuftruth

With 28 years of life experience and 10 of those spent pursuing post secondary education, I’ve heard and read countless idioms and quips, rules by which to live my life. Much of what I’ve learned has helped to shape me , but no words more so than those spoken by my mother.

Passed down by her own mother, the repeated mantra ” You’re no better than anyone else in this world, but remember they are no better than you.” captures the essence of who I want to be.  The reminder that there is “different” not “better”. That being unique is something to be celebrated, in ourselves, and in others. After listening to the woes of my day,  my mother would regal with me stories of her standing up to bullies, not on behalf of herself, but for others not able to.  My throat would swell with tears because as much as I wished I could say I did the same , I wasn’t strong enough.

I’ve been looked down by people but I’ve also looked down on others. I can’t change the past but as I move forward I keep her words in my mind and hope someday soon to truly embody them.