As young women, we’re all in such a hurry to find the “right guy”. Guilty of that sentiment, I too spent many a day accidentally looking for love in the wrong places. What I didn’t realize at the time was that all of the Mr. Wrongs lasted longer than they needed to. The reality is, there were plenty of signs to indicate that they weren’t right… I just chose to ignore them. Consider the following bit of advice (as told by someone who finally got it right).
Don’t ignore your gut. I once dated a guy for months because I couldn’t let go of how hard I had to work to get him to notice me. 20 minutes into our first date I became painfully aware that it took so long to get his attention because he had eyes only for himself. When you know it’s wrong, admit it and say goodbye. Don’t dig your claws in based on the fact that you’ve already invested time and ultimately just end up wasting more.
Don’t worship from afar. Especially not if you have poor vision like me. My first year of university I fell madly, “in love” with one of my class TA’s. 15 feet away, he looked like Justin Timberlake. I swear it. Ballsy for God only knows what reason, I decided to approach him in the cafeteria one day while he ate lunch with a group of his friends. Shockingly receptive, I engaged him in conversation for a few minutes before cutting it short and heading back to my own friends. When they asked why I had bolted, I told them, (and please don’t judge me too harshly) I was overwhelmed by his excessively hairy hands. I was only 18. Give me a break!
Don’t date someone your father doesn’t like. 1) He has his reasons. 2) He’s right.
Don’t fall in your love with your best friend. Ok… correction, don’t fall in love with your best friend, set him up with another one of your friends in an attempt to ignore it, become miserable watching their romance blossom, eat yourself 30 pounds heavier, and then when they FINALLY break up choose to ignore him because you’re, “so past that”. Don’t do that.
My last piece of advice on the topic is simple. Don’t rush it. Finding Prince Charming has nothing to do with the blind dates, the stolen kisses, the poor choices, and the countless catty looks from ex-girlfriends that stand between you and your happily ever after. As corny as it may sound, there’s only one person who holds the key… Deep down you know even the most perfect gentlemen will be deemed wrong if your own heart isn’t open to it.
The Zuf Truth 